If a guy gives you a blowjob, are you gay?

[manticore]

I'm three years off this revelation but are there any Metro readers out there over 50 who have got on the wrong bus?  Remember to mark your entry 'I used to straight but I like it up the arse nOooOoOoOOoowww!'

I'm 56 and I experimented with various bus routes in my 20s, but now it's all on the internet and I still like looking at the man as well as the woman. There's an interesting channel on pornhub which is features good looking 'buff' young men having the sex with women. The focus is on the men and it seems to be aimed at gay men who like to fantasise about straight men dong straight things, but I quite like to watch it too.

Don't want to take or give it up the arse though, never have. That's a bus that never sailed.

[New Jack]

if a straight man wanked about riding another man's cock in a room at Day's Inn Membury Services and then watching the cum drip out of his arse in front of the mirror - is that gay?

Depends on the motivation, one supposes. If this straight man was doing it for the sheer sexual ecstasy brought about by relieving himself ferociously while daydreaming about queer cocks and arses, you could argue it indeed contained gay elements (such as the gay sex).

Without knowing his intentions, though, it's difficult to rule out it being 'a test' or 'an experiment' or even a deconstruction of fantasy itself vis-a-vis the heteronormative culture the man usually finds himself amidst.

[drummersaredeaf]

A mate of mine once revealed that he was wondering if he might be gay so stuck a finger up his arse in the shower to find out. This very precise test came back negative.

[yesitsme]

A mate of mine once revealed that he was wondering if he might be gay so stuck a finger up his arse in the shower to find out. This very precise test came back negative.

I nearly passed out the first time I ever used a suppository.  I closed the curtains, worked myself up and pushed it in.

Then my arse pushed it back out.
In.
Out.
In.
Out.
and finally with an almighty shove it went in and my anus closed around it.

To be honest the feeling of it being 'accepted' wasn't too unpleasant.

Hmmmm. Now, I'm doubting myself.

I will also say I once saw Eric Cantona coming out of Aflecks Palace.  All he had on were jenas and a white t-shirt.  This was when Eric was at his zenith.  I remember thinking to myself 'Fuck me, what a body that lad has on him.'

Well I never thought I was but it turns out I'm gay.

Thank you CaB.

[thenoise]

I'm 56 and I experimented with various bus routes in my 20s, but now it's all on the internet and I still like looking at the man as well as the woman. There's an interesting channel on pornhub which is features good looking 'buff' young men having the sex with women. The focus is on the men and it seems to be aimed at gay men who like to fantasise about straight men dong straight things, but I quite like to watch it too.

Don't want to take or give it up the arse though, never have. That's a bus that never sailed.

I used to like watching 'loverboys' (cfnm) videos, where a nice buff looking young man is nude dancing around a whole lot of drunk giggling women who can barely keep their hands off him.  The women were all shapes and sizes, young old fat or quite good looking and young.  I'm not sure it was that gay because the focus was on the women's reaction to the men, rather than the men themselves, so it was more about the fantasy of being the centre of attention I think.

[New Jack]

A mate of mine once revealed that he was wondering if he might be gay so stuck a finger up his arse in the shower to find out. This very precise test came back negative.

Alright Daz

[drummersaredeaf]

It's funny in a lot of ways, as he's very much not Gary in a number of respects, but I guess we all have blind spots.

I explained the Kinsey scale to him last year to gauge his reaction, and he was very much on board with the idea of a sliding scale, saying he'd thought as much himself. He gets very, very homoerotic when drunk, and it's a little sad that there's something (in his upbringing I presume) that has closed his mind off to that. We all found his test fairly amusing in light of his latent bi leanings in any case.

[checkoutgirl]

Can I join in? Surely it's "what if you're being." or, "what if you've been."

Biggy has a type of colour blindness when it comes to differentiating the words "being" and "been". Different words with different meanings and different spellings but he has a tendency to conflate the two on a regular basis I've noticed.