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zomgmouse

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Re: Internet Dating [split topic]
« Reply #210 on: March 29, 2019, 12:45:54 PM »
I get a fair amount of first dates anyway.  Second dates, not so much.

This seems to be fairly common across the board tbh.

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Re: Internet Dating [split topic]
« Reply #211 on: March 29, 2019, 01:20:22 PM »
This seems to be fairly common across the board tbh.

I only get second dates, which is really puzzling.

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Re: Internet Dating [split topic]
« Reply #212 on: March 29, 2019, 01:59:10 PM »
I've actually got a situation when I've been on a few dates with someone who's lovely, but isn't the one.
Which is weird as I'm not that fussy.

Not sure what to do.
Might just hide for a bit.

icehaven

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Re: Internet Dating [split topic]
« Reply #213 on: March 29, 2019, 06:49:53 PM »
GOD YOUR BORING

You dodged a bullet there.

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Re: Internet Dating [split topic]
« Reply #214 on: March 29, 2019, 07:00:23 PM »
i had a really frustrating run of first dates about 2 years ago when I'd just started doing the tinder date thing,  where we'd meet up, have what felt like a really fun time, mutual sparks etc, i'd get a proper snoggy tonguey mwah mwah kiss, messages confirming how nice it would be to go on a second date, then radio silence a couple of days later

4 in a row were pretty much exactly like that.  i did get paranoid wondering what specifically about me would make a girl like me then sleep on it and go "actually, fuck, no", especially considering there wasn't really booze involved.  to calm my paranoia i just told myself that they got carried along by my charm and shit and i eked more out of the dates than could have been expected, and in the cold light of die they sorta realised "oh actually we have fuck all in common and he's a bit weird looking". 

Re: Internet Dating [split topic]
« Reply #215 on: March 29, 2019, 07:04:48 PM »
in the cold light of die

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Re: Internet Dating [split topic]
« Reply #216 on: March 29, 2019, 07:07:46 PM »
I've seen a lot of its all about the banter if you don't have bants then don't even get in touch. Usually I just message Hi Cunt and they don't reply

Biggest CaB laugh of the week, thanks.

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Re: Internet Dating [split topic]
« Reply #217 on: April 02, 2019, 01:05:12 PM »
I hope they go well Perplexicon.
You're miles ahead of me, I'm trying (and seemingly failing) to have my first chat with a match, though the fact I've spent all evening listening to Scott Walker's more challenging recent releases hasn't exactly put me in a flirty frame of mind.

Alas, Alias, they did not go well. The one I was looking forward to cancelled, and the other that I felt had a 50/50 chance of going amazingly well (which I was hoping!) or be a complete misfire turned out to be the latter. Whatever was clicking over text instantly dried up as we both realised at the same time that we were very different personality types. Objectively not a 'bad' date as we chatted quite a bit and weren't short of conversation, but I came away from it with a terrible mixture of disappointment and feeling that I'd just made a real fool of myself to a nice stranger... and got a polite yet very pointed 'no thanks mate' message the next day to confirm that. Woof. Obviously a bit of karma for the initial run of good luck I had with this online malarky.

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Re: Internet Dating [split topic]
« Reply #218 on: April 02, 2019, 01:31:50 PM »
About 1/3 of my dates cancel, so I reckon that's pretty much par for the course. And there's a very definite, unsurprising correlation between time and probability of a cancel. So however strong the connection appears to be, when it seems the right time to suggest a date I'll try to make that as reasonably soon as possible.

I've only really been in the apps about once in the last month and it's noticable how much likes/matches have tumbled purely from not being logged on and swiping. It really is a visibility game and a bit of a part time job to make it work for your average person. Unless you buy boosts

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Re: Internet Dating [split topic]
« Reply #219 on: April 02, 2019, 11:09:53 PM »
When the little gold button on Tinder tells me I have +25 likes, but I don't seem to be matching with anyone, it makes me very suspicious that it's not true, and they're trying to give me a reason to stay and keep swiping.

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Re: Internet Dating [split topic]
« Reply #220 on: April 02, 2019, 11:41:13 PM »
When the little gold button on Tinder tells me I have +25 likes, but I don't seem to be matching with anyone, it makes me very suspicious that it's not true, and they're trying to give me a reason to stay and keep swiping.
They've stopped removing people you already swiped left on, the most recent person to swipe right on you is the pixelated image and in the past that used to change once you swiped left and reset the app. Now they stay there for ages, I think it's 30 days.

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Re: Internet Dating [split topic]
« Reply #221 on: April 03, 2019, 01:00:03 AM »
Yeah this is right. I paid up for a months subscription after 6 months of using it. The 25+ was about 90 but half of them I'd already swiped left on. I think they also show users who have since deactivated. Still it did unlock a lot of matches that just weren't showing in my deck so it's worth considering

zomgmouse

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Re: Internet Dating [split topic]
« Reply #222 on: April 03, 2019, 06:56:42 AM »
Sometimes it's a distance thing and you don't see people who've liked you because they're outside your parameters.

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Re: Internet Dating [split topic]
« Reply #223 on: April 12, 2019, 10:40:06 AM »
I've been getting an unusually high number of likes on bumble the last few days. Anybody else notice this occurring? I know these things come in waves and I suspect it's not entirely random variation. Perhaps with Easter holidays upon us students and parents are looking to make the most of any time off they have. I've had a couple of things cease to be (not looking for any commitment other than commiting to not being an asshole, so they tend to have short shelf lives) so I'm delving back into the apps with a view to arranging some dates