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Help me solve an awkward social situation
« on: May 15, 2019, 03:58:11 PM »
Just organised for an old friend to come and visit me one weekend as I haven’t seen him for a while and I am moving to a new house town etc
He’s a family man so getting him away for a weekend has been tricky
Awkwardly, directly after this I have been invited to a mutual friends wedding but he hasn’t on the sat night of the same weekend but he hasn’t as our friend is trying to save space and He’s only invited certain members of our group of friends, hoping it will just blow over
So how do I manage this
1) lie and say I’m not available for some other reason
2) tell him the truth, I’m not the one who didn’t invite him
3) do some sort of sitcomesque “2 nights in one” and try and balance the 2 activities and hope they don’t find out

What would YOU do?

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Re: Help me solve an awkward social situation
« Reply #1 on: May 15, 2019, 04:00:11 PM »
Fake your death and move to Bolivia.

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Re: Help me solve an awkward social situation
« Reply #2 on: May 15, 2019, 04:00:39 PM »
Shag your mate who's engaged so the wedding gets cancelled.

Re: Help me solve an awkward social situation
« Reply #3 on: May 15, 2019, 04:01:03 PM »
Option 3, and film it so we can tell you how shit it is.

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Re: Help me solve an awkward social situation
« Reply #4 on: May 15, 2019, 04:03:26 PM »
2.  He’s presumably a good friend so don’t lie to him.  See if he wants to avail himself of your whisky and pornography while you are out - he’ll probably be grateful.

Re: Help me solve an awkward social situation
« Reply #5 on: May 15, 2019, 04:05:09 PM »
2 assuming it's not possible to reschedule.

Or refuse to go to the wedding 'cos your mate is being a prick only inviting a chosen few and making it awkward; point out you're doing him a favour by saving even more space.

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Re: Help me solve an awkward social situation
« Reply #6 on: May 15, 2019, 04:05:21 PM »
I'd use his visit as the perfect excuse to get out of going to the wedding. After all that was arranged first, and weddings are bloody awful anyway. Otherwise you're not only sacking him off as you got a better offer, but a better offer that he could/should have been invited to but wasn't, and he'll know it.

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Re: Help me solve an awkward social situation
« Reply #7 on: May 15, 2019, 04:05:39 PM »
Yep, 2, all day long.

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Re: Help me solve an awkward social situation
« Reply #8 on: May 15, 2019, 04:08:48 PM »
Fuck's going on with that third line?

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Re: Help me solve an awkward social situation
« Reply #9 on: May 15, 2019, 04:10:14 PM »
You've invited your friend so you don't go to the wedding.  You explain to the other that you've invited him so you can't come to their stupid exclusive fucking nuptials.

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Re: Help me solve an awkward social situation
« Reply #10 on: May 15, 2019, 04:11:34 PM »
Yeah I’d skip the wedding too.  Explain to them why and see if they’ll invite your friend to keep your presence.

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Re: Help me solve an awkward social situation
« Reply #11 on: May 15, 2019, 04:12:21 PM »
I'd recommend staying in bed all day on the day in question and just not answering your phone

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Re: Help me solve an awkward social situation
« Reply #12 on: May 15, 2019, 04:14:46 PM »
4) Barge in at the last minute, sweep the bride off her feet, then look pensive at the back of a bus.

Re: Help me solve an awkward social situation
« Reply #13 on: May 15, 2019, 04:14:52 PM »
I'd recommend staying in bed all day on the day in question and just not answering your phone

Think this is the one folks !

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Re: Help me solve an awkward social situation
« Reply #14 on: May 15, 2019, 04:16:53 PM »
I'd use his visit as the perfect excuse to get out of going to the wedding. After all that was arranged first, and weddings are bloody awful anyway. Otherwise you're not only sacking him off as you got a better offer, but a better offer that he could/should have been invited to but wasn't, and he'll know it.

another vote for this

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Re: Help me solve an awkward social situation
« Reply #15 on: May 15, 2019, 04:20:12 PM »
4) Have someone dressed in costume as you and then send them out to hang with your old mate. Give them notes of things to talk about - life stories, bios, shared hobbies, in-jokes - during their catch-up. Then you can have fun at the wedding with your old mate being none the wiser.

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Re: Help me solve an awkward social situation
« Reply #16 on: May 15, 2019, 04:22:13 PM »
Why did you find out so late about the wedding? Normally these are scheduled months in advance. Are you an afterthought?

Re: Help me solve an awkward social situation
« Reply #17 on: May 15, 2019, 04:36:50 PM »
Fake your death and move to Bolivia Colombia.

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Re: Help me solve an awkward social situation
« Reply #18 on: May 15, 2019, 04:43:59 PM »
Or, if you really must go at all, could you not skip the ceremony and dinner and then arrange with the couple for you both to go to the reception (if it's a typical wedding reception one extra person won't make any difference to that bit). That way you've put in an appearance, your mate can go too (he doesn't need to know originally only you were invited) and everyone's happy.
(except the bridesmaid your mate ends up impregnating and his wife when she finds out which destroys his family, all because you meddled with the timeline. But at least future visits will be easier to arrange once he's living in alone in a bedsit and back on the pop, so silver linings.)

Re: Help me solve an awkward social situation
« Reply #19 on: May 15, 2019, 04:57:44 PM »
The correct answer is to rearrange with the family man as a wedding happens a lot less frequently.

However, I would love if you tried a Frasier Crane-esque two get-togethers in one. Hang out with the guy at your place, tell him you're nipping down the shops and make your way to the wedding, changing into your suit in the taxi.

Get to the wedding, sah hello and tell them you're off to the toilet, because the cocktail sausages have given you a dicky tummy, going home to see your mate.

Rinse and repeat all night.

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Re: Help me solve an awkward social situation
« Reply #20 on: May 15, 2019, 05:10:53 PM »
Smoke as much heroin as you possibly can and hope the whole mess will just blow over.

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Re: Help me solve an awkward social situation
« Reply #21 on: May 15, 2019, 05:50:58 PM »
You've invited your friend so you don't go to the wedding.  You explain to the other that you've invited him so you can't come to their stupid exclusive fucking nuptials.

Yeah this.  You could explain the situation and ask if you can bring your friend along.   If that means there'll be less food to go round at the reception offer to bring a few extra bags of crisps or something.

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Re: Help me solve an awkward social situation
« Reply #22 on: May 15, 2019, 06:07:45 PM »
Why did you find out so late about the wedding? Normally these are scheduled months in advance. Are you an afterthought?

Yeah, sounds like your replacing someone else who can't make it. You aren't that important to them, tell them to shove their wedding up their own, and each others, fudge tunnels.

Re: Help me solve an awkward social situation
« Reply #23 on: May 15, 2019, 06:17:49 PM »
Weddings are great, you bunch of Scrooges.

I say arrange to see friend 1 at some other date and go to the wedding. Let your friends hash it out over the guest list.

Re: Help me solve an awkward social situation
« Reply #24 on: May 15, 2019, 06:41:42 PM »
Why did you find out so late about the wedding? Normally these are scheduled months in advance. Are you an afterthought?

As he hasn’t got my new address he sent it to work and no one gave it to me basically been sat in the post tray for god knows how long

Re: Help me solve an awkward social situation
« Reply #25 on: May 15, 2019, 06:45:10 PM »
I think I’m just gonna tell my mate I’m going to his wedding- it’s not me that hasn’t invited him and a lashup plus curry shouldn’t be overtly difficult to reschedule albeit later this year (hopefully)

I did miss a golden opportunity to not bother with a wedding there though, fair cop - I’m single currently as well so ffs to be honest

Re: Help me solve an awkward social situation
« Reply #26 on: May 15, 2019, 06:46:43 PM »
I think I’m just gonna tell my mate I’m going to his wedding- it’s not me that hasn’t invited him and a lashup plus curry shouldn’t be overtly difficult to reschedule albeit later this year (hopefully)

I did miss a golden opportunity to not bother with a wedding there though, fair cop - I’m single currently as well so ffs to be honest

Take your pal as your +1, sorted.

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Re: Help me solve an awkward social situation
« Reply #27 on: May 15, 2019, 06:49:04 PM »

Awkwardly, directly after this I have been invited to a mutual friends wedding but he hasn’t on the sat night of the same weekend but he hasn’t as our friend is trying to save space and He’s only invited certain members of our group of friends, hoping it will just blow over


Hasn't this sentence has my left temple pulse it has. I don't know what's hasn't happened.

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Re: Help me solve an awkward social situation
« Reply #28 on: May 15, 2019, 06:56:10 PM »
Weddings are great, you bunch of Scrooges.

You got married and thought everyone enjoyed themselves?  Mate.

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Re: Help me solve an awkward social situation
« Reply #29 on: May 15, 2019, 07:19:04 PM »
As he hasn’t got my new address he sent it to work and no one gave it to me basically been sat in the post tray for god knows how long


Could it not slip quietly back into the post tray and not be found until after the wedding?