Can You Stand Being Around Anyone 24/7, Seven Days a Week?

[checkoutgirl]

Is that what love is? I believe some people are in a relationship and watch telly with each other, sleep in the same bed and would probably shower together everyday if it was convenient. Then they go into work and spend the entire work day working with each other closely. Is that normal? I could not stick that. Even if I had everything in common with them I still can't imagine how I could put up with that.

Has anyone here ever done that and can they explain why?

[Danger Man]

Did it for a few years in Japan when me and the wife worked at the same place. It was fine. Some people like to be in a partnership, some don't. The answer is as boring as that.

[imitationleather]

My dream job would be one where my girlfriend was my boss and she tried to get rid of me through a prolonged campaign of workplace bullying and constructive dismissal.

[Danger Man]

'Angry Female Boss' is a niche section of the Japanese porn industry. Not for the faint-hearted.

[Sebastian Cobb]

I think most people need a bit of time away from their partners at some point, if only to be alone with their thoughts.

[checkoutgirl]

I think most people need a bit of time away from their partners at some point, if only to be alone with their thoughts.

Yeah but some people...

[Sebastian Cobb]

Yeah but some people...

Maybe they don't have thoughts?

I dunno, I like a bit of demarkation from home and work so having to spend my home time with a colleague could make that a bit difficult.

[Gerald Fjord]

I think most people need a bit of time away from their partners at some point, if only to be alone with their thoughts.

that's what sex is for, surely. the necessary and incidental presence of a partner sure, but mostly just me and my thoughts - imagining my dream run on pointless, remembering an old favourite pair of shoes, considering the lily. bliss.

[Icehaven]

Gawd no, I'd murder 'em, and they me. Isn't this probably the main cause of people getting divorced after being comparatively happily married for 30+ years? One or both of them retire and find they can't bear spending so much more time together. I used to work with this extremely mean, moany woman and the other staff said she was like that because her husband had retired a few years earlier and now he was home all the time so she was either at work or with him, and she'd realised, having only really had small doses of him for decades, that she really couldn't stand him always being there and never having the house to herself anymore.

I need a certain amount of time completely to myself or I start to get ratty and frustrated (some theories suggest it's an only child trait but I don't think that's true at all, I've known plenty of non-only children with the same need.) I love Mr. H a truly ridiculous amount but I'm still not always sorry when he trots off to see his brothers and I have the flat to myself for an evening.

[Neville Chamberlain]

'Angry Female Boss' is a niche section of the Japanese porn industry. Not for the faint-hearted.

I saw a Japanese "Angry Female Boss" video once. It involved quite a lot of poo :-(

[BlodwynPig]

I think most people need a bit of time away from their partners at some point, if only to be alone with their thoughts.

Tru' dat

[Lisa Jesusandmarychain]

I saw a Japanese "Angry Female Boss" video once. It involved quite a lot of poo :-(

The unfunny CaB poster? That'd make me sad, as well.

[Danger Man]

I think most people need a bit of time away from their partners at some point, if only to be alone with their thoughts.

You haven't met 'the one'.

[Sebastian Cobb]

I've committed to dying alone

[checkoutgirl]

I've committed to dying alone

What? Like in a ceremony?

[mothman]

Pink (or does she still style herself P!nk?) wrote a song about this.

[touchingcloth]

'Angry Female Boss' is a niche section of the Japanese porn industry. Not for the faint-hearted.

Pretend they're angry birds and catsuit them into a me-too-ing.

[Zetetic]

Yes.

[jobotic]

I saw a Japanese "Angry Female Boss" video once. It involved quite a lot of poo :-(

No wonder she was angry. My boss would be too.

[shiftwork2]

This is why dogs were invented.  It's quite rare to see couples walking a hound.  "Think I'll just take Daisy for a..."  "ALRIGHT BYE"

[ZoyzaSorris]

This is why I spend five hours a day outside without fail pottering aimlessly with a watering can, staring at and coquettishly micturating on swaying groves of sweet rocket, sweet william and stinking bob, even in the midst of the wettest June on record. Especially in the midst of the wettest June on record.

[AllisonSays]

My partner and I are working in the same place sometimes nowadays, although we don't work together exactly (she's doing a PhD and on occasion blagging a desk in the office I work in), as well as living together in a tiny flat. It's fine and we both do things seperately of an evening or weekend often enough that it doesn't feel full umbilical cord, but like, it's also not fine and makes me want to fuck my relationship up deliberately just for a bit of fucking drama, just to enliven this moribund, lockstep, inextricably partnered dance towards the grave. But like it's also fine.

[Cloud]

Heck no.  But that's probably one good reason why I flee a million miles from the idea of relationships

It's bad enough when you're friends with those people online who are just online 24/7 and never seem to sleep or have any other life at all and would, if permitted, chat with you for every minute of it (so I mostly steer clear of IMs but the concept follows you onto chat apps like Telegram and Discord so what can you do)

[flotemysost]

That sounds like absolute hell on earth. I'm hardly an expert when it comes to relationships admittedly, but even when I've gone on holiday (for a week or two) with just one other friend, it's great but I look forward to having my own space afterwards, being able to stick to my own schedule, get lost in my own thoughts etc. I can't imagine saying goodbye to having any experiences ever again which don't involve a particular person.

[New folder]

It's the only kind of relationship I'm willing to enter into.

Conveniently, I'm in one.

[thenoise]

I think that I've had relationships in the past that have ended largely because we could only afford a single room together in a shared house, or a little bedsit, or what have you. It's ok for six months / a year at a push but eventually I just crave my own space, even a shed or a garden, half an hour washing up in the kitchen or listening to a podcast or anything. Started having three quarter hour showers just for the alone time. Today's tiny properties and cramped living arrangements are driving the divorce rate I'm absolutely sure of it.

[Lord Mandrake]

Urrgh, I hate people that are there all the time. Sitting there.

[phes]

God no. I'm a kinder, happier and more compromising person when giving up my autonomy isn't the major compromise. I'd rather die alone or drifting in and out of consciousness in the company of a friend or dutiful hospice worker than in the arms of someone I'd spent 30 years being a niggly, annoying, passive aggressive cunt at (yes I've tried just not being a cunt)