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Re: I May Destroy You
« Reply #60 on: July 28, 2020, 06:10:42 PM »
How about if you had sex with an actual woman who then revealed that she was a lesbian. That's something I am entitled to rule on as a straight man with no homophobic tendencies. I don't think that would bother me if it was a relatively random hookup as this seemed to be (although there was some suggestion that there had been a rapport established prior to this unlike Kwame's dial-a-fuck encounters that we see).

ETA - I am siding with Puce Moment on this in terms of disclosure for random hookups.
My original post made that exact point and I did say it wouldn't bother me. That's just me though and what I'm less sure of is whether being bothered about having that information withheld is a legitimate position to take.

I guess it comes down to whether or not people have the right to be homophobic.

Re: I May Destroy You
« Reply #61 on: July 28, 2020, 06:20:28 PM »
Yes - sorry that was your exact post. Apologies for overlooking it.

Was there an explicit reason that Kwame suddenly decided to try women? I don't remember if it we pre- or post- his pinball of hookups. Part of the point of it is for Arabella to have a melt down and then gain some perspective, isn't it? I can't remember if she ever backed down or changed her position towards Kwame over it. They just seemed to make up.

Re: I May Destroy You
« Reply #62 on: July 28, 2020, 10:14:39 PM »
What if you wer having sex with someone and they blurted out that they was a Tory. Is it acceptable to vomit in their face/hair/back?


Re: I May Destroy You
« Reply #63 on: July 28, 2020, 11:49:36 PM »
How about if you had sex with an actual woman who then revealed that she was a lesbian.

Edit: rambling story about nearly having drunk sex with a lesbian once. It was a relief when she told me. And everything made sense really
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Re: I May Destroy You
« Reply #64 on: July 29, 2020, 01:33:31 PM »
How about if you had sex with an actual woman who then revealed that she was a lesbian. That's something I am entitled to rule on as a straight man with no homophobic tendencies. I don't think that would bother me if it was a relatively random hookup as this seemed to be (although there was some suggestion that there had been a rapport established prior to this unlike Kwame's dial-a-fuck encounters that we see).

ETA - I am siding with Puce Moment on this in terms of disclosure for random hookups.

Imagine someone expecting a woman to have to talk about her previous sexual experiences prior to intercourse like it's fucking donating blood. Who would do that?

Re: I May Destroy You
« Reply #65 on: August 03, 2020, 08:04:58 AM »
Terri and the waiter felt tacked on. Almost as if the thought was "what haven't we included? Oh, non-binary stuff. Right, Terri can do that". Her threesome arc got short shrift too. Only got mentioned to Arabella with a "I'm a bit mugged off a out that" which got ignored.

Re: I May Destroy You
« Reply #66 on: August 03, 2020, 03:02:46 PM »
There was a lot that felt tacked on, imo - Terri and the waiter, Ben the flatmate, the original planned threesome, the flashbacks about her dad, the second trip to Italy. Def. needed tightening up.

Re: I May Destroy You
« Reply #67 on: August 03, 2020, 03:06:12 PM »
I loved [...] the silly gags (often in the background)

Can you give some examples? I was half pissed when I watched most of it and not paying attention. Trying to decide whther it's worth another go.

kitsofan34

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Re: I May Destroy You
« Reply #68 on: August 03, 2020, 04:13:19 PM »
There was a lot that felt tacked on, imo - Terri and the waiter, Ben the flatmate, the original planned threesome, the flashbacks about her dad, the second trip to Italy. Def. needed tightening up.

Especially interesting considering I read somewhere she wrote 80 drafts.


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Re: I May Destroy You
« Reply #70 on: Today at 02:19:07 AM »
I thought the threesome (and cheating Simon) at the start, was to setup how Simon wasn't trustworthy. It was to throw us off the later reveal that Terry was actually the one who told Simon to leave Arabella.

I also think we're being a bit harsh about things not being fleshed out etc, to me, these threads were intriguing and believable on their own, which was one of the show's real strong points for me: That it blended a heavier / dominant arc with casual events / experiences in a way that felt different to a lot of TV drama like this. This was what reminded me of This Life and made it feel fresh. Admittedly Terry's encounter with the trans man (actually played by a trans man called Tyler Luke Cunningham) was a box ticking moment, but so what? What's wrong with a bit of shoe horning in of something that is a hot topic of the moment? I was chuffed to bits, and I know some trans people who were too. They could've been a little less obvious about it, but I've seen much worse shows deal with topics like this in much hammier ways!

For what it's worth, I really didn't like Kwame having sex with the woman and not disclosing his motivations.

oh! Someone asked why he was doing it: I believe it was in response to him being raped by a man. It traumatised him into believing that his gay lifestyle was dangerous and he should try and abandon it.

To me him not disclosing his intentions was an abuse of power and an abuse of her trust. It was pretty awful and she was very lenient (maybe almost too lenient) about it. Its not even so much about him being gay, it's more about him using her as an experiment that I find really troubling. It's like mates egging each other on, playing tricks like daring their mate to shag a <insert not stereotypically "beautiful" type> woman for a laugh. It's exploiting that person's trust and abusing that person, as far as I'm concerned. I think it worked well in the show, how it wasn't just a clear cut, awful thing, as the girl was reasonably forgiving, but at the same time, I was deeply uncomfortable with him going through with it. (maybe as A GAY MAWN NAY myself, who's at a couple of points in my life thought about doing something like this to "test my gayness" I found that whole thing awkward to watch) ...

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