Sad news about Nikki Grahame cw: eating disorders

[Daniel]

Was she married to Chad from The Lonely Boys who walked off that show because they were slagging her off?

No that was Chantelle...my wife made the same mistake

[steve98]

No that was Chantelle.

Yeah. And it was Preston from The Boring Boys, who walked.

[checkoutgirl]

No that was Chantelle...my wife made the same mistake

Big Brother is all very hazy to me. I stopped watching when Jade got nude on the couch. That was enough for me.

[Chedney Honks]

Few months ago my wife and I got shit faced and she kind of tripped over a bottle of wine and I started laughing and she said what and I said fucking hell I thought you were gonna do a Kinga and we had a real good laugh

[steve98]

Her fame seemed to peak (and fizzle out) with the wine bottle-dildo incident. Haven't heared from her since.

[Captain Z]

The wine bottle went on to star in Harry Potter and Game Of Thrones.

[Elderly Sumo Prophecy]

Whereas Kinga's fanny retired from the limelight and has settled down in rural Hertfordshire.

[Kankurette]

I think she probably ended up doing porn or something. Quite a few of them did, like Nicola off the first series. Lea, who was in the same series as Nikki, did it beforehand and that was one of the only series I watched, my brother was into it so I saw a couple of episodes, and I liked her. She was a sort of mother figure. Nikki freaked me out though. She was like an angry little child and I didn't find her funny. I know she chose to go on the show and she had an assessment, and Pete coped fairly well, but Nikki shouldn't have been allowed on there. Having people like her on BB was just cruel. I guess the fame thing kept her mind off food for a bit, but then she just spiralled. Someone said elsewhere that the food rationing must have been a huge trigger.

[Hundhoon]

Nikkis 2006 series was massive at the time, the last big one, it could get 8 or 9 million viewers, mindblowing for channel 4, it got a lot of stick for putting in mentally vulnerable people, anyone remember 38 year old rentboy Shebazz, who threatened to kill himself on air and kept getting out his penis? And refused to stop touching up 18 year old Gylnn, the live feed that year he was way worse there is so much they refused to show he was unhinged ,Or huge breasted dysmorphic porn star Lea who was 35 but looked 53. Who refused to eat to again attention from Pete with tourettes, My favourite series though, Nikki was hilarious really entertaining. Deserves her status sad but not surprising news.

The only series I liked after this one was the one with Halfwit /Freddie and Bea, and Lisa/ Marcus and Angel,, bit of a cult series up there with the best
Kinga has understandably legally changed her name apparently

[Kankurette]

I don't know why this is upsetting me so much, I was never even into Big Brother.

[JaDanketies]

I don't know why this is upsetting me so much, I was never even into Big Brother.

Anorexia is just such an awful way to go. I feel sad when I think about the death of Karen Carpenter and I've probably listened to The Carpenters deliberately once. It's like a mental health problem that leads to a lifelong suicide and it's very hard to understand what goes through the minds of its sufferers. And obviously she battled against it but never succeeded. And then there's the whole lockdown exacerbating mental health problems angle.

[Norton Canes]

Also as I alluded upthread we're all being brainwashed right now into mourning a cunt who doesn't deserved a shred of our sympathy. It's only natural if we end up feeling heightened compassion for a far more deserving individual.

[Retinend]

She died from not eating anything.

A joke at this point would be tasteless.

Sorry, that's an old joke by this point. Definitely running a little thin.

[Retinend]

Was her name "Grahame" because that was her ideal weight?

[Retinend]

I don't have much sympathy for her, to be honest, as I had anorexia once and beating it was a piece of cake.

[paruses]

Think this is the last series I watched. Was boring bargain basement Vernon Kaye in this one? Or was that the next one? If so it's one or the other that I remember watching before Celeb BB became the thing and the regular one just became people you wouldn't want to spend time with locked in a room.

Personally I didn't care for her. I though it was just someone always looking for an angle and having tantrums; +/- everyone else on the show, which is what it was all about after a couple of series. That seemed to be the point in television where the whole duty-of-care to reality participants seemed to be cast aside. I know that researchers for these things always look for people who are on the edge of having exploitable mental health issues but this era seemed to be where they moved the line so they didn't have to bother teasing out episodes of behaviour; the just flicked the on switch.

I was quite upset when I saw this news. I was married to a former/recovering anorexic/bulimic and am aware of how food is an inescapable trigger for all sorts of things. Not that I could properly understand it but I am more sensitive to the fact that it's not just about putting on a bit of weight.

I do hope that something good in terms of more open discussion and awareness comes out of her death rather then clips of her waving her arm around asking "Who is she? Who is she!?" and Davina and Rylan saying how she was one of the best contestants and knew how to play the game.

Also - Norton Canes' post.

[Blue Jam]

Remember her from BB, probably one of the last years I watched the show. On hearing she'd died I spent a couple of minutes reflecting on the hugely awful circumstances of her life and of her passing. Two minutes more than I'll ever give to thinking about the repugnant ghoul whose demise on Friday was supposed to have united the nation in an outpouring of grief.

I never watched Big Brother and only vaguely recognised her name but when I read the news story it somehow still made me very sad. 38 is no age at all, especially when it was a lifetime of struggling with anorexia.

Re: the crowdfunding for treatment, I believe she had been treated on the NHS first but the treatment hadn't been effective and raising funds to pay for private treatment was a last resort. That said mental health services are seriously underfunded across the board, and that includes treatment for anorexia, despite it having the highest mortality rate of all mental illnesses.

[paruses]

That said mental health services are seriously underfunded across the board, and that includes treatment for anorexia, despite it having the highest mortality rate of all mental illnesses.

Yes: open discussion, awareness, and funding. I missed off funding.

[Zetetic]

Fuck awareness.

Arguably awareness makes the problem worse by distracting from the seriously ill (in favour of "issues" and "difficulties").

I think I might not be having a great Monday morning and the above might not be an entirely balanced view.

[paruses]

No I can see how "awareness" could be used as a mis-direction. It is a bit of a bland term these days, perhaps.

[Dex Sawash]

I have casually watched Big Brother (america) a few times. Had no idea what was happening.

[Chedney Honks]

Fuck awareness.

Arguably awareness makes the problem worse by distracting from the seriously ill (in favour of "issues" and "difficulties").

I think I might not be having a great Monday morning and the above might not be an entirely balanced view.

Apologies for using that kind of bland euphemistic journalese, you've picked me up on it before. It's from a position of respect erring on caution in an area where I have no experience.

[Zetetic]

Wasn't meaning to have a go at anyone in this thread, and I'm sorry if I've made anyone feel worse. Labels remain a mess with no pleasing everyone, whatever you do.

[Chedney Honks]

You certainly didn't make me feel bad, nor targeted, it was more a reflection that I'd specifically used that language and not the first time I'd spoken in those tiptoe terms.

[Rainbow Moses]

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[Chedney Honks]

Retinend's posts present a wonderful subtext.

[pigamus]

I did wonder if he was trying to make a point.

[druss]

Never warmed to her on the show, found her quite annoying, but she seemed to be very supportive and by all accounts pretty likeable behind the scenes and either way, anorexia is a horrendous way to go. Have a friend who would be 27 year this year were it not for an eating disorder. Such a hard illness to recover from as unlike drug addiction/alcoholism, abstinence isn't an option. Can't imagine many alcoholics recovering if they had to drink half a pint in the morning, afternoon and evening.

[checkoutgirl]

A joke at this point would be tasteless.

That is tasteless, shame on you. Eating disorder, it's no picnic.

[Chedney Honks]

We need consistency.