Tried to see a dominatrix and send deposit in person...have I screwed up?

[willbo]

I've made an appointment to meet a bdsm dom in London, it's something I've always been curious about but never been brave enough to do.

I've never done anything like see any kind of escort before, the closest thing I've done to it was pay cash for a non sexual massage at a local home spa.

They wanted a £40 deposit sent by bank transfer. They told me to put their bank details with the name they work under (which is an ordinary everyday name, but not their real name) and said that if I did it online, it would pop up with a warning that the name of the account doesn't match, but I could ignore that and go ahead anyway.

I'm not set up for internet banking, I thought I was but my details have expired and I need to re-apply, so I stupidly went in the bank yesterday in person to do the transfer. I didn't want to but I panicked as I'd promised to send it that morning.

I just wrote down the details and handed them to the cashier and said "can you transfer £40 from my account to this one please", and they tried to put it through, then the cashier told me the names don't match. I just panicked and said "ok I'll check that" and left the bank.

She looked at me strangely as I left and I keep thinking their going to look my details and hand me over to the police or something. I feel really shaken up now.

I've emailed the dom to tell them there's a delay and I'm having trouble with my internet banking. I didn't tell them I tried to pay it in person. I feel like worrying, have I put their identity in danger too? Like my bank can look them up.

[Chedney Honks]

Rest assured, mate. One way or another, you're getting fucked up the arse.

[Video Game Fan 2000]

Wise man once said...Post/Av

[Paul Calf]

Is this the right room for an argument?

[Butchers Blind]

Don't worry, it's all part of the humiliation play.

[imitationleather]

Is being a dominatrix even illegal? As long as she pays her taxes it should be fine.

[jobotic]

It can't be illegal, it's all over youtube

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o6tTgjoRxWw

[idunnosomename]

Classic dom

[Barry Admin]

It can't be illegal, it's all over youtube

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o6tTgjoRxWw

I like when they do it from behind afterwards https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=HzbPwXRjjxI

[Dr Rock]

Neither of you have done anything illegal or are planning to do anything illegal. Maybe if you're this worried you should have researched it first?

[BlodwynPig]

Save yourself the trouble, chuck a fiver to my preferred charity (Save Pigs in Captivity, NB. Not Pay Pigs in Captivity) and I'll pop down to yours for a sessio

[Dr Rock]

Is this her? (SFW)

https://youtu.be/mxmmvHsDeuI

[Pijlstaart]

Yup, you've buggered her, same thing took me out the dominatrix game. I'd been hiding in plain sight, every time I visited the bank they'd mistake my bee-themed dominatrix outfit as belonging to the extensive bee-themed superhero pantheon, all very innocent, but one day, wouldn't you know it, I was queueing up and one of my clients hopped in, still velcroed to a queening stool. No-one could make out what he was saying through the ballgag, but the tellers saw the bee-stings and put two-and-two together. No mortgage for the dominatrix, said a big bank daddy, rubbing his moneybag against my leg, groo, we're all subs for bank daddy's big deposit and I never dommed again.

[famethrowa]

This kind of thing has been going on for years

[Jim_MacLaine]

OP, what's yer hing?

[steve98]

I've emailed the dom to tell them there's a delay and I'm having trouble with my internet banking. I didn't tell them I tried to pay it in person. I feel like worrying, have I put their identity in danger too? Like my bank can look them up.

Fahking 'ell, you useless  CAHNT! You should worry: wait till Oi get moi fahking 'ands on you! You'll feel loike you've been fahked sideways wif a fahkin' CRUISE LOINHER!

[Dex Sawash]

Careful how you reply. This account has made about 5 posts, all of them looking for banking transaction based wank fodder.

[paruses]

Easier said than done but relax and stop worrying. Nothing illegal has happened and you got a strange look because you went into the bank for them to do something then left without a resolution. The fact you didn't kick off and start demanding to see a manager and asking why it's so difficult probably got you the strange look.

I can say with almost 100% certainty that the cashier hasn't given you a second thought. They deal with loads of transactions to places like Love Honey all the time. Just go back and make the payment. When they say the same thing about the name just say you have verified it with the recipient.

[paruses]

Oh and I assume it's a domme. Get that right. These people are very precious about that kind of thing.

[steve98]

This is quite an escalation for you: a week ago you were worried about your landlady gettin' angry cos your hamster had chewed a bit of cable, and now this. But it's all gonna be fine, I'm sure.

[Buelligan]

And the worst thing about it was the hamster d

[Captain Z]

Careful how you reply. This account has made about 5 posts, all of them looking for banking transaction based wank fodder.

I reckon he's just looking for humiliating comments to wank over.

[metaltax]

Just go back and make the payment. When they say the same thing about the name just say you have verified it with the recipient.

I'm not sure you can, can you? Haven't they tightened up on this sort of thing to avoid fraud (i.e. someone telling your Gran that they're from British Gas and asking them to transfer £5000 into their personal current account). I thought it was only for online transactions but sounds like it also applies to in-branch transfers.

[Goldentony]

is this to punish yourself for the wire in the flat

[Video Game Fan 2000]

you've buggered her,

"this is the one thing we didn't want to happen"

[lankyguy95]

You're strapped for cash.

[Goldentony]

40 quids loads less than id have thought too thats like a crap night out at the pub without a wank and getting a toaster thrown at you

[Video Game Fan 2000]

You can have a smack in the mouth, you can have a piece of my mind but you can't have a toaster thrown at you

Go on

Get out of this dominatrix shop!

[Neomod]

I've made an appointment to meet a bdsm dom in London, it's something I've always been curious about but never been brave enough to do.

So you're buy curious?

[JaDanketies]

Yes you can still transfer cash to someone if the name doesn't match with the records on the bank, but you just get a warning. I did it in the last month so I am 100% sure. Just tell the teller it's cool and they're your life coach. And then sign up for online banking. COVID must've been tough if you've had to wait for tha backs to open and let you in every time you want to do something.