Cuckolding (NSFW)

[Video Game Fan 2000]

Especially after having to hoik that piano up the stairs, goodness me

The PG Tips chimps, with my good piano? That I paid for and had tuned at great expense? Phwoar.

[Small Man Big Horse]

I've kind of done this in the past, many many years ago a friend of a friend approached me and told me that she and her husband were in to cuckolding, though it was of the "She has sex with a man and then goes home and tells him about it" variety, rather than him being in the actual room while she's fucking someone. Anyhow, she suggested that she would like to have sex with me, I was painfully single and miserable about it and so more than happy to go along with the whole thing, and for two months we met up once a week. Unfortunately at this point she admitted that while the cuckolding thing was true, on this specific occasion she hadn't told her husband, and she was very confused as she thought she loved me but didn't want to leave her husband. We met a couple of times after that but it then fizzled out as I felt really guilty towards the husband, especially as he seemed a decent sort.

[Johnny Foreigner]

What's that supposed to mean? I'm missing a Partridge reference or something?
I'm posting too much in the cuckold thread?
Mate. I haven't even had any wine.
I have the bare minimum ... normal levels of interest in this subject.

I just meant that I'd rather not go into detail, because my promiscuous years are behind me. I greatly enjoyed a fair amount of unfettered rogering in my late twenties and early thirties, before entering into a relationship for the first time in my mid-thirties. I can only say that, if you are a free man and a random woman asks you to indulge in some physical pleasure for the benefit of both herself and her husband, alcohol is rarely helpful.

[PlanktonSideburns]

Unlike swashbuckler of the carnal arts Kelvin I haven't got a story seeing as I completely wussed out of it when a bloke approached me in a pub in Forest Hill and told me his wife wanted to have sex with me. In fairness he relayed her desires to me in a dispassionate voice that sounded like he was reading a list of colours off a Dulux chart and he was the double, and I mean the double, of Onslow out of 'Keeping Up Appearances.' Don't think I'd have managed to keep the old flagpole[nb]my cock[/nb] straight and true with him sitting in the corner rubbing one out. I'd just have kept thinking "Christ, he really looks like Onslow. Is it Onslow?" Part of me is still wishing I did it for the story, I should have known this would come up on the Cook'd and Bomb'd forum years later and I'd missed the chance to make an interesting contribution.

I saw the same man years later having a go at someone in a newsagent in Honor Oak about the price of Mojo magazine, as if they'd set it. Being cuckolded may take its toll on the soul, or he might just be a dickhead I dunno.

I recon there would have been no wife when you got there

[touchingcloth]

Has anyone ever thought "uh oh, I've made the wrong sucker a cuckold!" and become embroiled in a long-running letter-writing imbroglio and political scandal which utterly dashed your White House ambitions?

[thenoise]

Either that or they'll happily sit back and let a big black man/immigrant fuck their wives.

Thats it isn't it? Being pro immigration = come and have a go on my wife please mr foreign man.

It takes some mental gymnastics to turn being frightened of foreigners stealing 'our' women into a position of strength.

[bgmnts]

The big black men are called bulls and the white ladies who like big black men are called snow bunnies, for the uninitiated.

[Buelligan]

Some people insist they are human though.

[Kankurette]

Thats it isn't it? Being pro immigration = come and have a go on my wife please mr foreign man.

It takes some mental gymnastics to turn being frightened of foreigners stealing 'our' women into a position of strength.

What's the reverse if you're a woman who's pro-immigration? A Polish hottie shags your husband?

[paruses]

I'd hate the thought of watching someone I love being fucked by another person.

What if you were able to just see them as just a body.  Forget emotion, forget the past, everything you might share, all the vulnerabilities, secrets... Forget intimacy, everything that ties you to them, that made you love them, everything special or unique about them, try to see them as animated meat, existing only for your pleasure and you might enjoy it.

In the spirit of the thread topic I would say that this is the antithesis of cuckolding. As a bit player in this scene the last thing that either party wants is for there to be no emotional response from the other party; it's not an activity that people willingly do because they hate it although that's not to say there aren't ever bad actors involved. If it's just general advice towards Kankurette's statement then it seems solid enough.

Perennially on the relationship subreddits:

"I (F) agreed to a threesome after my boyfriend (M) moaned about having one for ages, I really enjoyed it but now he's gone all weird and passive-aggressive"

Yea not surprised at all. Loads of women I have met over the years have used the phrase "it was my ex wanted me to try swinging / 3some but hated it. One reason we split up".

I can't find the quote about racial connotations to link in here but is it porn sites that drive that whole BBC[nb]not that one[/nb] cuck thing - them being mainly driven by American tastes and so pulling in the extra taboo of inter-racial sex? In the quite parochial swinging scene that exists in Britain  and Ireland I have not encountered it.

[kalowski]

That whole BBC thing just rips open the racist heart of the porn industry. That white people are the norm and therefore if you wish to watch non white people in pornography you go to a specialist genre. Do they still use the word "ebony"? I've definitely seen Latino.
They may as well replicate the whole "exotic tribal chief" trope.

[thenoise]

What's the reverse if you're a woman who's pro-immigration? A Polish hottie shags your husband?

A cuckette?

[Poirots BigGarlickyCorpse]

What's the reverse if you're a woman who's pro-immigration? A Polish hottie shags your husband?

Nah, you're a race traitor who wants to be ravished by one of the not white cars.

My sex life is non-existent but cuckolding seems like one of those things that works best as a fantasy, where you can control everything including how you feel. I know people make it work but it seems like it has huge potential to get very messy and upsetting.

I've never written a true cuckolding story, the closest I've come involved a husband introducing his wife to a hot young stud and then saying "well I'm going away for a week, Hot Stud will keep you company" and being all pleased with himself that his wife was gonna get some Hot Stud action.

[Johnny Foreigner]

The female cuckold is called cuckquean. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cuckquean

I have certainly met a few of those, since I have met all sorts. Now, having never been married, I cannot tell for certain, but my impression is that it takes a great deal of mutual trust to engage in a relationship like that, in order to avoid either party feeling betrayed. But they definitely do exist.

It is important to remember that sex and love are different things: the former is physical lust, whereas the latter is an emotional investment. They can be separated quite easily; you'd be surprised.

[purlieu]

The big black men are called bulls and the white ladies who like big black men are called snow bunnies, for the uninitiated.

Queen of Spades is another term used for white women who will only have sex with black men. They often have a spade (in the card sense) tattooed on them.

In terms of cuckolding, which often goes hand-in-hand with sissy fetishes, there's a really unpleasant attitude towards black people in that it's generally seen as somehow more humiliating for a cuck/sissy to be fucked by a black guy than a white guy. Sex with a black person should not be a taboo, especially at this point in time. It's the sort of thing that makes me feel very uncomfortable with a lot of the submissive kink scenes which I otherwise often feel some affinity to. One could argue that, potentially, any forced-fem fantasies are sexist and homophobic, but they rely on the man being cishet, or at least a pretence of it. But then the race thing must surely then rely on those involved being racist.

In terms of cuckold fantasies in general, it's one of the two ultimates in submissiveness: lots of cuckold stuff involves the man being active in his partner having sex with somebody else. I totally get it, but I'd imagine for most people into it it's only ever a fantasy and post-orgasm any interest in it becoming a reality would melt away very quickly. Despite my own submissive tendencies, I'm also in a polyamorous relationship, which means the concept doesn't really work for me anyway.

[Aaron500]

That whole BBC thing just rips open the racist heart of the porn industry. That white people are the norm and therefore if you wish to watch non white people in pornography you go to a specialist genre. Do they still use the word "ebony"? I've definitely seen Latino.
They may as well replicate the whole "exotic tribal chief" trope.

Shamefully,  "ebony" is used to describe a female performer, while "black" is a male.

[Kankurette]

No, Buelligan, I would not enjoy being cucked. Trust me on this. I also do not like being viewed as animated meat. When a random man leers at me or grabs my tit, it makes me angry or frightened. I have a lot of baggage around sex and intimacy.

Why do so many men insist on their girlfriends having threesomes or swinging and then get mad when they enjoy it?

[thenoise]

Shamefully,  "ebony" is used to describe a female performer, while "dogfart" is a male.

[thenoise]

Why do so many men insist on their girlfriends having threesomes or swinging and then get mad when they enjoy it?

Because their brains have been warped by years of porn addiction so that their idea of sex is more influenced by their favourite scenes than by the emotional and sexual connections that they have formed in real life. Well, mine has anyway.

[buttgammon]

I think I'm quite adventurous sexually but this is something I'm entirely happy to be close-minded about to be honest. I enjoy hearing about other people's experiences with stuff like this and threesomes but they're remote to anything that I would find arousing or even emotionally viable.

[Chedney Honks]

I always assumed it was laziness.

Hey fellas. Cba giving your missus one? Well save yourself twenty minutes of wheezing away and get her seen to by the good folks at BLACKED.COM. She'll be good to go for about a week and will stop pawing you while you're tryna watch MOTD or play with your trains. Our bulls are consummate professionals, leave no pie uncreamed and they keep their white socks on throughout.

[TrenterPercenter]

Because their brains have been warped by years of porn addiction so that their idea of sex is more influenced by their favourite scenes than by the emotional and sexual connections that they have formed in real life. Well, mine has anyway.

Yep though it's not a new phenomena; John Berger in Ways of Seeing points out that "the nude" a genre of painting that has spanned centuries is nearly in every case painted with the woman looking at the viewer of the picture and not the lover contained in the picture.  They tension here is the woman is with another man but desires the viewer; obtainable by her actions i.e. allowing the viewer to "view" and prove her submissiveness to both male in the picture and the male as the viewer.  Sex is done for the pleasure of others and not for her.  Modern porn is just a rehashing of this; men are invited to view and are sold the same illusion.

[Buelligan]

Where do all the cis woman art appreciators fit in to this theory?   

IMO, each artist paints their subject in the way they choose to (or the way their patron requests).  Some female nudes are about heterosexual sex but not all.  Not by a long old chalk.  Nakedness is a much bigger cloak, under which many, many, meanings lie waiting to be understood.

[TrenterPercenter]

Where do all the cis woman art appreciators fit in to this theory?   

They don't because the "theory" is about the sexism of European oil paintings that were almost exclusively painted by men for men.  It's not an all encompassing theory, rather a commentary on how these paintings represent "a way of seeing".  You are absolutely at liberty to talk about cis women art appreciation and your love of nudes; it isn't a case of either or.

You might want to check out John Berger because, you know, he is one of the greatest leftwing art critics of all time (though of course a mere mortal to you) and know who bases a lot of her stuff on the work of Berger; Contrapoints, think about it (or don't as the case might be).

[Buelligan]

Naked aggression there.

Useful to remember, the book's called Ways of Seeing.  Plural, do you see?

[TrenterPercenter]

Naked aggression there.

Useful to remember, the book's called Ways of Seeing.  Plural, do you see?

Yes I do "see" I wrote that when I was talking about the books title and not referring to the books theme.  Do you see?

[Fambo Number Mive]

How do people into cuckolding find the third person? I are their special magazines or websites for such a thing?

What do people tend to look for in the third person? I presume they need to be very sexy and very manly.

[Buelligan]

Yes I do "see" I wrote that when I was talking about the books title and not referring to the books theme.  Do you see?

Not really, no.

[Blue Jam]

[tag]This will end well[/tag]

[El Unicornio, mang]

How do people into cuckolding find the third person?

I think it would be as simple as going up to a person and saying "would you like to fuck my wife while I watch". I mean you could ask pretty much any bloke not paired off at the end of a night out and they'll say yes.